Masculinity Debate: Are Dating Apps Creating A Generation Of Incels?! Lonely Men Are More Dangerous Than Ever!

The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett

Monday, 31 March 2025 - 2 hours 26 minutes

Are we raising a lost generation of men? Is society failing young boys? In this emergency discussion, Steven sits down with expert guests to explore the recently published ‘Lost Boys Report’.

The Diary Of A CEO’s masculinity discussion is joined by Scott Galloway and Logan Ury. Scott Galloway is a member of the advisory council for the American Institute for Boys and Men and Professor of Marketing at the New York Stern School of Business. Logan Ury is a behavioural scientist turned dating coach and Director of Relationship Science at Hinge.

In this discussion, Scott, Logan, and Steven discuss topics such as, how toxic masculinity has a grip on young men, whether dating apps are creating a generation of incels, the rising levels of violence among adolescent men, and why young boys are giving up on love and work.

00:00 Intro

02:13 The Lost Boys Report

03:46 Who Is Logan and What Does She Do?

05:07 Who Is Scott

06:12 How Did This Happen?

10:38 Fatherless Homes

14:40 Are Boys Mentally Weaker?

16:51 Is the Education System the Problem?

22:49 Where Are Male Role Models?

30:08 What the Stats Say About Dating

34:42 Dating Standards

44:23 Do Women Really Want Emotionally Attuned Men?

46:16 If They're Okay, Always Go on a Second Date

48:06 Men's Groups: Should We Have Them and What Are the Benefits?

54:57 Ads

55:50 Steve's Supportive Group of Friends

1:02:42 The Dangers of Porn for Young Boys

1:08:01 How Scott Helps Men With Porn Addiction

1:13:12 Men Approaching Women in a Post-MeToo Era

1:15:27 Teens Don’t Know How to Ask Girls Out in Person

1:25:22 Do Successful Women Struggle to Find a Partner?

1:28:11 Ads

1:29:14 The Rise of Feminism

1:30:54 Money Equals Identity for Men

1:36:09 Does Money Give Self-Worth to Women?

1:38:42 The Human Dating Boot Camp

1:47:33 How Is the Left Going to Get Men Back?

1:52:16 Advice for Parents of Young Boys

1:55:12 What Scott and Steve Had to Unlearn About Being a Man

2:10:02 Closing Message for the Lost Boys

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